*It is absolutely Ok to compare ourselves with others. Let us read more into it to understand.
Hmm…let us not start with saying ‘This is not for me’.
Looks, physical appearance, wisdom, fame, money, fan following, kind of job, car one owns and few more could be the reason for us to compare ourselves with others. Mostly this comparison is with people whom we know decently well. You got that person in front of you?!! Comparing with others is an attitude, some have it and some don’t bother about it. Ones who have it go long back since childhood but the person with whom this comparison takes place might keep changing according to the desire or need.
This comparison makes us change how we feel about ourselves, what we want in our life and feeds the insect of inferiority in our mind.
Ever felt like having a body like someone else?
Ever felt like earning money like someone else?
Ever felt like being successful like someone else?
Ever felt like being as famous as someone else?
None of these comparisons will ever leave you with a fulfilling and a happy feeling.
Secret - it is absolutely Ok to compare ourselves with others. If you find someone with lot of money and you need it too, it’s normal to compare yourself and your life to that person. Let’s not get philosophical here by saying its not ok to compare yourself and live your uniqueness and so on. I am a practical person and I speak what is practical and human. I am no monk and don’t understand esoteric language. Yes, one thing you can be mindful of is to convert this comparison into inspiration, closely observe the life of that person, what they did to achieve this and have the courage to go on to achieve this for yourself too. Now this is something to look forward to.
Now, see this one person whom you compare your life to and see what is that one thing you need the most what this person has right now. For example, if it’s the money you are fascinated about. Now go ahead and do a detailed study about this person and what all he/she did to achieve this money. There is not just one way to achieve what we need to achieve. As an example, you are looking to earn good money like this person. Now consciously start removing this person aside from this need or desire of yours. So, shift you focus from person to money. It has nothing to do with the person. The way that person achieved money might not be great way for you, so you might need to either look for other ways to earn money or create an altogether new way to do so. Point is, focus remains earning money using your uniqueness.
Our happiness of achieving our dreams happens with achieving them through our uniqueness. If you go on to copy other person in achieving that dream, it might lead to misery or sadness because every path is not for everyone. This is where you need to become mindful and choose your path of achieving the same dream as the other person. If its not clear which path to choose, go with the first wise option you see and later on you might alter your option when you get close to your unique way of achieving it. It is very important to know ourselves in and out on a mental and emotional level. This knowing ourselves helps us to reduce the inferiority complex and know our strengths which we can utilize to achieve our dreams. Strengths such as hard working, persistence, clever, great communication, thought leader, loyal, good personality, wise thinking and more are few examples of what might work for you. You need to know your strengths and play them when needed.
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